When stupidity runs rapid, and hurts your marriage what can you do to get over it?

You're right....stupidity ran rampant and you both got hurt in the process; I am encouraged though that you faced this situation together, and you should be too. That means your core union is still intact. I don't have to tell you that every idiotic thing that occurs to your friend to try is not necessarily for you. You know that now with a moral certainty that you didn't fully have before....this is a good thing too. Why? Because you will never be vulnerable to that type of thing again.This was a "sticking your hand on a hot stove" type of lesson; it burned because it was supposed to and you're not likely to ever need a refresher course in this lesson. In this limited context, your pain is a blessing to you and will help you negotiate the next hurdle of temptation some well-meaning friend suggests. So, stop beating yourself up about it...what's done is done. (And you certainly didn't do it alone, because your husband could have easily told you "no", right?) Marriage isn't a power struggle or an ociation where members jockey for control against each other. It's a sacred partnership, so when you were wounded, you both felt wounded. Again, it hurt because it was supposed to hurt. But as bad as that felt, at the end of the day you've still got each other, and that's worth its weight in gold. If you never knew that before you certainly do now. Take care of each other. Good luck.