I feel no desire to be physically intimate with her?

Is it normal? Who is to say if it is or not. We are all different. I will have to say tho that In my opinion that you do love her and understand what she had gone through and you do not want to hurt or lose what you have with her by pushing the ual aspect of your relationship. I think you both need to sit down and talk about and what it is you both want. There may not be the ual attraction to this person that you thought you had and then again it may be all just because you care for her so much. You see I love my wife and we have gone months with out having . She had childhood problems that is part of the reason. Then there is that we were physically attracted and neither one of us put to much into . Yes there are times that I would rather have with her a lot more but at the same time I do not push it with her because of her past. I think there is a lot more trust and admiration from her because of this. So just sit and talk to her and come to some agreement with her and you may be very surprised to find out she may be more than ready but not sure that you are. I wish you the best of luck.